Interesting thing about that is that, while it’s still common practice, a lot of more left-leaning women did away with taking their husband’s name years ago
Yeah my wife and I just kept our name. Its funny because over the years we sorta wish we would have done the traditional thing as it would make a variety of things easier but now apparently its becoming a brilliant move.
yeah its more problematic for official stuff really. like being in the hospital. Its not much but like you tend to have to make it more clear your the spouse.
yeah it was a slow burn annoyance and she gets annoyed by it more than I but it took like 20 odd years to be like. This is sorta annoying. EDITED - hey so im rethinking and it started at about the 10 year mark and built up over time but as I said its little things. My wife has a lot of medical issues though so we might have more nuisance around it than the typical couple.
We all got our struggles. Ours are shitty and I’m sure you guys have shitty ones too. Fucking life is shitty. All we can do is try to help our people out when we can.
My mom never took my dad’s so I grew up with that being the norm, so I took it step further and my partner and I are not even married despite being together 11 years.
Yeah my partner and I didn’t get married until 8 years deep, and that’s going steady. We were fucking on and off for years before. We did it to appease our family. Never had any kids thank the hole in the ozone.
Hey Americans: Don’t want to be oppressed or live in a fascist state? Immigrate to Canada! We’re hella friendly and open to people’s of all kinds, except MAGAs and Nazis and or maga-nazis
I would move up there next week if it was that easy and didn’t mean probably losing my awesome job. Oh, and it might be a bit disruptive for my family, too.
I’m moving to Sweden but I’ll be stopping by your way first! I’m too trans to let tsa look at my passport so I’m going to land travel to you all and take a plane out from there
Unless things have changed significantly at the border in the past few years, there’s no process to leave the US. It’s just the Canadian border guard checking things as you enter their country.
Of course, if the GOP decides to fully enact Operation: Handmaid’s Tale, then that could change.
Ha, if only that was an actual possibility. Most Americans will not qualify for immigration to Western countries.
I’d also hold off on thinking you’ll be safe. Poilievre might be unpopular now, but there’s a lot of time between now and the election. It’s not a slam dunk for Liberal, fascism can absolutely still rise in your country too.
I hate pasting this url but it talks about actors who did and the first one was because of a requirment for the actor to have the same stage and legal name so don’t understand that but it was david tennant so maybe something with international that complicated it. https://www.buzzfeed.com/kristenharris1/celebrities-changed-legal-names-stage-names
It depends on how much paperwork you do when you change your names, how much autocracy you want to fight
When my ex divorced me she warned me me she wasn’t going through that again so I just need to deal with her keeping my name. She kept half of everything else of mine so I guess it’s no difference
Well that was the thing. If we did it off the bat it was like a checkbox, but to do it later is a larger nuissance than the nuissance of them being different.
Long term, this seems like an effective way to end that custom. What person would go into marriage changing their name when they know this attitude is at play?
“We need Christian men leading the fight against abortion,” arguing that women’s suffrage was a mistake, and accusing Hawkins of emasculating her husband by being “busy jet-setting.”
This is only the first step. It will not stop until women are property.
If you don’t get married than your father will own you until he decides who you will marry.
House Republicans passed a bill (which stalled in the Senate) this session to require citizens to have a passport or birth certificate matching their name to vote.
In British Columbia, there is no legal requirement to change your last name after marriage, and either spouse can legally use either last name at their leisure without any bureaucratic change. It is a genderless law.
My wife and I were talking about this last night. She chose not to change her name when we got married, as she’s been down that road before and has no desire to do it again. I’m totally fine with it, she’s been able to grow and discover things about herself now that she “wasn’t allowed to” in her past marriage, and I love helping her realize that. We also just got our passports the other day - work wants me to get mine and paid for it, so she got hers as well.
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Interesting thing about that is that, while it’s still common practice, a lot of more left-leaning women did away with taking their husband’s name years ago
Yeah my wife and I just kept our name. Its funny because over the years we sorta wish we would have done the traditional thing as it would make a variety of things easier but now apparently its becoming a brilliant move.
My wife did the same, but for unofficial stuff, she uses my last name as hers.
yeah its more problematic for official stuff really. like being in the hospital. Its not much but like you tend to have to make it more clear your the spouse.
ID with the same address usually solves this for me.
a little conversation usually does but sometimes, if she is conscious, they have to verify with her and it can take a bit if they are to busy.
We got married ten years ago and she didn’t take my name. I’m very much cool with it, and it’s got easier over the years.
yeah it was a slow burn annoyance and she gets annoyed by it more than I but it took like 20 odd years to be like. This is sorta annoying. EDITED - hey so im rethinking and it started at about the 10 year mark and built up over time but as I said its little things. My wife has a lot of medical issues though so we might have more nuisance around it than the typical couple.
We all got our struggles. Ours are shitty and I’m sure you guys have shitty ones too. Fucking life is shitty. All we can do is try to help our people out when we can.
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In a sort of twisted way that could result in a blue wave if they disenfranchised ~half of their own voters and not the left.
They’ll presumably remedy this by giving husbands extra votes on behalf of their wives and children, as in Franco-era Spain.
My wife didn’t take my last name and I’m so glad.
My mom never took my dad’s so I grew up with that being the norm, so I took it step further and my partner and I are not even married despite being together 11 years.
Yeah my partner and I didn’t get married until 8 years deep, and that’s going steady. We were fucking on and off for years before. We did it to appease our family. Never had any kids thank the hole in the ozone.
Tbqh i don’t know if we are ever gonna get married, just because it’s not the main priority, but I do make sure he’s my beneficiary for most things.
I took my spouse’s name because I hated my old one.
But I will happily be a class representative for the lawsuit against this bill.
Power to you!! Totally get wanting to change your name, people have plenty reason to do so!
Holy. Fucking. Shit. That’s bad. That’s oppressively stupid fucking bad.
Hey Americans: Don’t want to be oppressed or live in a fascist state? Immigrate to Canada! We’re hella friendly and open to people’s of all kinds, except MAGAs and Nazis and or maga-nazis
I mean, y’all gonna let me in? I need a place to crash for at least 4 years.
If only it was that easy…
Hmm. You all raise a good point. As Canadians, I think we need to make it easier for Americans to immigrate here.
We need to experience and expertise and we need to learn how to expedite that to bring the right people here to help expand Canadas capabilities.
Canadians, how to we make this happen? I have zero knowledge how to make this happen.
You guys seem to have a very open asylum policy. Give it a few years and a lot of Americans might qualify without you doing anything else.
For real I’m not even allowed in that country for a crime I committed 20 years ago.
I would move up there next week if it was that easy and didn’t mean probably losing my awesome job. Oh, and it might be a bit disruptive for my family, too.
I was going to say, “no, stay and fight”, but on second thought I agree with this sentiment for more vulnerable groups like trans folks
I’m moving to Sweden but I’ll be stopping by your way first! I’m too trans to let tsa look at my passport so I’m going to land travel to you all and take a plane out from there
Good luck at the border.
Unless things have changed significantly at the border in the past few years, there’s no process to leave the US. It’s just the Canadian border guard checking things as you enter their country.
Of course, if the GOP decides to fully enact Operation: Handmaid’s Tale, then that could change.
Give us places to stay, welcome us, and offer us work and we’ll gladly come
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I’m still happy with Massachusetts, but my company is based in UK and we have an office outside Toronto. The road is paved
Toronto is the one city that everything else being even I think I might like to live more than where I am at.
Ha, if only that was an actual possibility. Most Americans will not qualify for immigration to Western countries.
I’d also hold off on thinking you’ll be safe. Poilievre might be unpopular now, but there’s a lot of time between now and the election. It’s not a slam dunk for Liberal, fascism can absolutely still rise in your country too.
Eh…
We’re not a consolation prize, they’ve let shit get fucked in their country for decades.
Yeah. You’re absolutely right, but there’s still a ton of good Americans that Canada could utilize to help us build our industry that we need.
We need more than just exploited real estate in this country, and I’m sure a ton of Americans could help us make that happen at an accelerated level.
I’d much prefer to take in Americans that are disenfranchised with their country, than have a disenfranchised country try and turn us into a new Guam.
Besides a province or two.
so anyone who changes their name? So like a whole bunch of hollywood. two birds one stone I guess from their view.
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I hate pasting this url but it talks about actors who did and the first one was because of a requirment for the actor to have the same stage and legal name so don’t understand that but it was david tennant so maybe something with international that complicated it. https://www.buzzfeed.com/kristenharris1/celebrities-changed-legal-names-stage-names
It depends on how much paperwork you do when you change your names, how much autocracy you want to fight
When my ex divorced me she warned me me she wasn’t going through that again so I just need to deal with her keeping my name. She kept half of everything else of mine so I guess it’s no difference
Well that was the thing. If we did it off the bat it was like a checkbox, but to do it later is a larger nuissance than the nuissance of them being different.
Long term, this seems like an effective way to end that custom. What person would go into marriage changing their name when they know this attitude is at play?
It’s cute you think that’s not another right they’ll quickly take away from women as soon as they can.
Republicans destroy marriage with this one neat trick!
If they force women to change their names with marriage, women will simply stop getting married.
Oh you sweet summer child…
This is only the first step. It will not stop until women are property.
If you don’t get married than your father will own you until he decides who you will marry.
Yep, that’s in there:
Trans rights are human rights.
In British Columbia, there is no legal requirement to change your last name after marriage, and either spouse can legally use either last name at their leisure without any bureaucratic change. It is a genderless law.
Fuckin A, now I am really appreciating that.
Also to make it harder for people with non western names to vote
My wife and I were talking about this last night. She chose not to change her name when we got married, as she’s been down that road before and has no desire to do it again. I’m totally fine with it, she’s been able to grow and discover things about herself now that she “wasn’t allowed to” in her past marriage, and I love helping her realize that. We also just got our passports the other day - work wants me to get mine and paid for it, so she got hers as well.
i had some ideas about this that i shared recently https://lemmy.world/post/25499276