• @MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca
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    I had something similar happen to me. I was helping a friend with homework, and she abruptly and excitedly said her nipple was tender, and showed me her new nipple piercing. I just froze and said it was nice. She lingered for a while, then put it away.

    The poor girl must have been exasperated with me. I just never caught on.

  • Pelicanen
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    242 hours ago

    I can add that if you ever say something that you yourself think was stupid, it’s often better to just own up to it than to play it off (within limits). Something like “That was a stupid thing for me to say, I’m sorry, you’re just very beautiful and I’m a bit nervous” as an example.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️
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    2 hours ago

    This is why even though I am pan, I have a preference for men. Girls drop signals that I ain’t catching. A dude will just be like “I’m hard. Wanna suck it?”

    Shit, I had a GF break up with me because she said I never touched her. Well yeah; I’d ask if she wanted to, she’d say no, then sulk that I listened to her. 🤦‍♂️

  • southsamurai
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    10611 hours ago

    F&g

    That being said, for anyone that ever gets into a similar situation, the correct thing to say/do after the thumbs up is to say , “and thank you for sharing them with me. May I enjoy them more directly?”

    You can paraphrase that, it’s just the idea.

    But, my boob loving homies, it doesn’t matter if you’ve been married to the boob owner for decades, pay appreciation to them tiddies every time you get access to them, visually or otherwise. I promise you, it will never be a bad thing to give appreciation to a partner for sharing their body with you. You don’t have to be formal about it, something like “baby, I’m so happy you let me motorboat your funbags” will work if that’s the kind of relationship you have. Something like “honey, even after all the days and nights we’ve shared, I never stop being happy we’re together, and that you share yourself with me like this.” might be a bit better received by some.

    Fuck, for my dick loving homies out there, it works while you’re fondling balls too.

    Remember, sex is someone giving you full access to their body, with all the vulnerability that comes with that. Be aware of the wonder that it is. Share that wonder with them.

    I’m 50 now. I’ve had intimate access to women since I was under 18, with varying degrees of regularity. Never once has saying thank you in a genuine and personal way gone wrong. Not once.

    And I’ll tell you, when a partner says it to me, it never fails to make me happy.

    • Honestly, I found the most effective way to get the titty high is to grow them yourself. You can take this medication that’ll let you grow some right on your chest so you’ll always have access to a pair you can squeeze.

    • @photonic_sorcerer@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      197 hours ago

      I thanked a girl for letting me fondle her tits and she immediately recoiled and told me never to thank girls for things like that again.

      So, it depends… But on what, exactly?

      • @idiomaddict@lemmy.world
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        95 hours ago

        It depends on how into you/the situation they are, just like with everyone. Most people are more accepting of people saying weird shit (any kind of thing, not specifically thanking them) in the moment if they have an emotional connection to the person saying it or if they’re really horny.

    • @YukiA
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      299 hours ago

      Thank you dad :c

    • MentalEdge
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      67 hours ago

      You might also ask what she wants to do.

      Usually, when things get going, my go-to has been “wow… Where do you want this to go?”

      Sometimes you don’t get an answer, and thats ok. Lots of people just get things going but expect you to then take charge.

      Other times I find that people have hopes for what they’d like to happen.

      And specifically asking about that is step one to giving someone exactly what they want.

      And thank yous are always nice. Both to hear and say.

      • @Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        52 hours ago

        I like that. I would like if someone said that to me.

        I’m so fortuitous that both my partner and myself are in camp “just say what you want, it’s not weird”

        All of my precious partners have been in camp “just do things, don’t say things” which I found so weird.

        Now I can just say “wanna do stuff in an hour?” And my partner will be like “eh maybe, do you wanna do stuff?” and if I say “yea” they’re like “dope aite”

        • MentalEdge
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          31 hour ago

          Doing whatever you want, or having someone do whatever they want, can be really hot.

          But even if that’s what they want, I like to actually establish thats what they want/are ok with.

          Asking is just always a good idea, because then everyone is more likely to get exactly what they were hoping for.

    • r00ty
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      I’m also going to say it’s kinda weird behaviour on her part too, no? I mean going from cuddling to returning to the room half naked has skipped a few steps in my (perhaps old fashioned) mind here.

      It puts it into a somewhat more likely “that happened” situation to me.

      • @GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip
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        73 hours ago

        Probably not that weird when you go to someones house to “watch a movie” and end up actually watching a movie. And then the dude doesnt even get the hint when she basically rubs up against him. At that point she probably said fuck it, ill get naked and if that doesnt work i dont know either. And it didnt work

        • r00ty
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          32 hours ago

          I think there’s still a lot less subtle ways than skipping straight to that. But, that’s my opinion I guess.